An intimate story full of longing, ache, and regret, about two men who fall in love but can’t be together. The love story goes on to change the rest of their lives and colour their worlds indefinitely, but they took such different paths - and it breaks your heart to know that it could have ended differently if one of them had just picked up the fucking phone.
Bernardine Evaristo’s ‘Girl, Woman, Other’ is as much a book as it is a work of art. A highly considered novel with twelve protagonists, each chapter opening out like the petals of a flower, each different and yet connected, coming from each other while folding into each other.
Or maybe it’s not a flower. Maybe it’s a tapestry, with each woman’s story weaving in, blending in with each other to create a picture of the British Black Experience.
An STP is a packer (or pStyle type device) with a hole in the centre that allows wee to come through while standing up. STPs are used for a variety of reasons, including gender affirming practice, for safety using gendered bathrooms for trans men and nonbinary people, and to get in and out when you need to pee!
A packer can be made of lots of things! Some people pack with socks, an EZ Bulge, a silicone or Cyberskin packer, or a 3-in-one STP. A packer is placed down the front of your underwear (either inside or outside, or in a jock pocket), harness, or pouch.
A slow, contemplative read, you spend much of the book trudging through the gloom - and those who prefer a more light-hearted, faster-paced read may find themselves battling to get through the first few chapters. We must urge you to continue for what waits on the other side is nothing short of beautiful and transformative, and is a story that needs to be heard.
Tucking is a way to flatten the pelvic area and to reduce the protrusion of genitals. There are a few ways to tuck, and we've got a handy how-to guide just for you! Tucking shouldn't be painful, so we've created a step-by-step for you to choose a tucking gaff and fit it comfortably for best results.
Written in the 70s but in many ways lightyears ahead of its time, Rita Mae Brown’s Rubyfruit Jungle is a lesbian coming of age story with a main character you have no choice but to fall in love with - and not just because we all love a pushy lesbian.
An easily loveable read populated by vibrant and endearing characters, this is a murder mystery - but not as you know them. Instead of the typical murder mystery tropes, it’s set in small town Central Otago. Your characters are a quirky, flamboyant gay couple and their charge: a young girl who is both alarmingly precocious and adorably naive.
New York Toy Collective! They're rad, in fact, so rad that we've decided to add their Half Tank binder to our review list! These are one of our most popular binders, and we've answered some questions about size, fit, comfort, and critiques just for you.
Armistead Maupin’s Tales of the City doesn’t open the door for you and politely invite you in. The door swings open. You hear ‘thereyou are, you’re late’ before being yanked down several flights of stairs and thrust into a room full of strangers. Strangers who are all trying to introduce themselves at once.
I felt so torn reading this book. On the one hand, it is beautifully written. It’s one of the best pieces of prose I’ve read in a long time. It is, rightfully, a classic. Isherwood writes about grief and ageing, what it means to keep living even after loss. It takes place over a single day, the main character’s last day alive, and uses the same stream of consciousness style of writing as some of Isherwood’s younger contemporaries, but feels much more accessible and deliberate than a lot of the Beats.
Allyship can take many forms, such as emotional support, being there for people when they come out, and being a voice when homophobia and transphobia are present. If you're a member of the Queer community, here's some tips for being there for everyone.
I struggled to write this review. Like, a lot. For weeks after I finished the book I would sit down at my laptop and say out loud, to no one, “I don’t want to write this.” Not because it’s not a good book. It is! Sweet, funny, and sad. Insightful and raunchy. It’s got the beautifully dry sense of humour and candid, call-a-spade-a-spade, informalness that I love about kiwi culture and a lot of New Zealand writing.
The Hanky Code emerged in the USA in the 1970’s (some say New York on the East coast, some say San Francisco on the West coast) as a way to signal (using back pockets) to others in the Queer community just what exactly you’re into. By simply sneaking a glance at the booty, anyone who knows what’s up can either give you a knowing nod, a tight lipped smile, or come over and ask to buy you a drink.
How can I describe this book? It will break your heart. More than your heart, it will break you wide open. This book is a scalpel, the tip of an arrow, a bullet wrapped in silk. You’ll find yourself turning to your partner in bed with tears in your eyes, asking if you can please just read them something. You’ll find yourself wishing you owned more copies so you can lend it to everyone you know.
Whether you’re new to packing or an old deft hand - you’ll know how packers and STPs can stick to everything. Unless you want to collect bits of fluff, dirt, you, or remnants of glitter, then you’ll definitely want to grab yourself a pot or two of packer dust.
Wading through the mire of social media can seem like a bottomless pit sometimes - but fear not! We've created a list of some of the coolest peeps in the LGBTQAI+ community who we follow, who we think you should follow, and who are generally just super cool.
The Cyclone STP is one of our entry level STP's available. Made by Tranzwear, the Cyclone has a funnel fed through a Mr Limpy packer so you can pack and pee. The Cyclone was a new STP for us, so rather than give you our personal opinion, we thought we would let members of the community tell us their thoughts.
We were fortunate enough to have some wonderful volunteers put their hands up to review some of the products we have in store. We will be collating and releasing these product by product - so stay tuned! As always we would love some more reviewers to help others in the community who aren't able to try before they buy.
Pronouns are super important to get right, and although it can take a while to get someone's pronouns down pat, the effort is worth the comfort of all involved. If you intentionally misgender someone to make a point or when you're angry at them then you are, in fact, a prick.
Approximately 1.7% of the population is Intersex. Intersex is a generally descriptive term that identifies people whose reproductive anatomy, chromosomes, or hormones don't fit a binary characteristic.
With the recent launch of the Weight Watchers app for children (don’t even get us started on how fucked up that is) and our journey locating inclusive stock for our clothing collection, we thought it prudent to write a wee blog on the matter!